Oral Sex: 101

History of Oral Sex

We found one of the earliest references to the practice of Oral Sex (Fellatio) among the hidden treasures of the British Museum, in images of the myth of Osiris and Isis, Osiris was murdered by his brother, and cut up into little pieces like a chicken. His sister Isis gathered all the pieces, but of course, a key piece was missing: the phallus. So she made one out of clay again and to bring it back to life, “blew life into it.” Never underestimate the transformative power of oral sex.

If you travel to India, you can find an entire chapter of the Kama Sutra dedicated to art of the oral encounter, which in Sanskrit is called “auparishtaka.” That’s a mouthful! Don´t forget, the Kama Sutra dates back to the second century BC .

In ancient Rome, fellatio was an act which reflected rather complicated social mores, and was considered taboo depending in what context it was performed. Giving fellatio was considered a passive action so the obligation to perform it was used to control and punish subordinates, and infrequently as sexual practice between two equals. A man could require a woman or a man whose social class was lower to perform oral sex (in a sort of drop-and-give-me-20 sort of way) and it was not just a sexual act, but also a demonstration of his power.

Frowned upon or not, the practice was common enough to merit not one but two verbs in Latin, one describing the act of giving, and one for the act of receiving. Call it what you want to, oral sex can be a wonderful way to communicate with your partner without saying anything.

Do you engage in Oral Sex?

How low can you go? Do you get down? What I mean is do you perform or engage in Oral Sex? I guess you’re wondering why I ask? You’re probably also thinking what’s the big deal, why do you even need to ask? Strangely enough, not everyone is into Oral Sex. I have to say it took me 30 years to even grasp the concept. I have lost many relationships because I wouldn’t engage in Oral Sex and my boyfriends at the time felt our relationship wasn’t worth it after that.

Why some women won’t engage in Oral Sex!

I have talked to several women all different ages, and was shocked to find out a large majority of them were not engaging in oral sex.  Their reasons ranged from religion, culture to health reasons – all valid reasons. I was raised to believe Oral Sex was dirty and a virtue expected of a Christian woman. But as I later researched in the Bible, there is actually no guideline/rule on sexual activity. They are no explicit guidelines that rule out position 69 or any other position for that matter.

Oral Sex & The Bible

Like anal sex, oral sex is the subject of much confusion and disagreement among the faithful. There are those who say that oral sex is unnatural because God did not intend our mouths to be used in such a manner. Others associate oral-genital contact with the sexual depravities of Sodom and Gomorrah.

As you will see in the Scripture, neither one of these views is supported. Not only that, but oral sex has benefits that are of particular importance to Christians: oral sex allows the natural prevention of unwanted pregnancy and is an alternative to premarital intercourse for those committed to preserving their chastity before marriage.

There is nothing in the Bible that forbids engaging in acts of oral-genital contact. Oral sex has wrongly been grouped in with “sodomy” and the sexual sins of Sodom and Gomorrah. As we have seen with anal sex, this argument does not hold water, because the sins of the Sodomites were specifically non-consensual in nature.

There is no way this could be extrapolated to argue against a sexual act of oral sex for mutual pleasure. On the other hand, the Bible does contain some favorable references to oral sex, some in poetic language and some more explicit:

“His Fruit Was Sweet to My Taste”
“Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. (Song of Solomon 2:3)”

“May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits”
“Awake, O north wind, and come, wind of the south; make my garden breathe out fragrance, let its spices be wafted abroad. May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits!” (Song of Solomon 4:16)

What are some of the safe ways to practice it?

  • Use condoms if oral sex is being performed on a man. Make sure the condom is of a good quality and is worn properly.
  • Use dental dams (also known as women condoms) when oral sex is being performed on a woman.
  • Make sure your genitals, as well as the surrounding area, is washed and cleaned thoroughly. Not only does this help in ensuring protected oral sex, but also enhances the pleasure of the activity considerably.
  • Stick to one sexual partner at one time. Bed-hopping is the fastest way to contract STDs.
  • How-to Oral Sex Tips: 20 ways to blow his mind

Is it advisable to discuss Oral Sex with your teenager and encourage it?

Yes, absolutely! Bloomberg reports that two-thirds of U.S. teenagers and young adults ages 15 to 24 have had oral sex, according to U.S. researchers who say people in this group may mistakenly feel it’s less risky than vaginal intercourse.

This is the first time researchers asked young people about the timing of oral sex relative to vaginal intercourse, according to today’s findings by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. It’s important to understand sexual activities of young people to help educate them about the risks, the authors wrote in the report.

The study, based on 6,346 interviews that followed behavior 2007 through 2010, determined that 66 percent of females and 65 percent of males had experienced oral sex. About 25 percent of both genders had oral sex at least once before they had vaginal intercourse for the first time, the survey found.

Based on this report, it is imperative to discuss sex and sexual intercourse with teenagers. They need to understand some of the risks associated with it and also how to adequately protect themselves. Read full report here…

General concerns about Oral Sex

Credit: WhatToSeeInRome, DefendingTheTruth

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9 thoughts on “Oral Sex: 101

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  2. Lord yea I engage more than willing to receive it even better when the guy loves to do it & is down there like its his last meal. Yes I give my hubby the oral pleasure, most women don’t know the immense power that comes w/ sucking a cock. It’s incredibly ego boosting. Too many ppl have been told so many wrong things about sex & taught its shameful but it’s not it’s beautiful especially w/ someone you love that loves you. God made sex for more than procreation, he also made it for pleasure, read the Song of Solomon you’ll find out.

  3. At first glance, I thought this was a topic that shouldn’t have been posted here considering it’s a KolorBlind magazine. But after reading it, it’s an informative read for both teenagers and adults. Thank for always posting stellar articles. This is another great read.

  4. Hot topic! I am part of an online forum where we were discussing this last week. I’ll point to your article. This is informative! Thanks for posting.

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