Do all interracial couples have deadly narcissistic traits?

The other day I was reading a blog post online about a black Hollywood couple. One of the commenters proceeded to say that she was happy to see a successful black couple in Hollywood. I too ‘am happy to see that. She further went on to say that she was happy “he” (the husband) didn’t end up marrying a white woman to upgrade himself. A practice she feels is so common among successful black Hollywood elites. Her comment only showed her own insecurity and low self-esteem. How can you view a certain race is superior to yours?

Her comment struck me (not in the right way) but it also echos some of the opinions of the public over the years. It the eyes of the world if you are dating or are in a relationship with someone outside your race or ethnicity, you are indirectly denying your race. Not only that, you are also trying to upgrade your status…The ‘upgrade’ part is what I still do not understand. My understanding of ‘upgrading’ one’s status has always been hard work and perseverance that leads to success and fame. This is accompanied by a certain lifestyle only an elite group of people are entitled to.

I have never understood the concept of ‘upgrading’ based on a relationship with another race, unless you are of one race and are in a relationship with someone of another race who happens to be a billionaire (billionairess). Being in an interrace or interethnic relationship does not guarantee you any special privileges in life. If anything, the company, name or net worth will guarantee you all that. If you are attempting to move into a certain neighborhood that is predominantly black, white, hispanic, asian or other race/ethnic group they are not going to treat you any different simply because your partner is of another race.

Why is the general mindset still living in the ‘slavery era’ where if you are favored by the ‘master’ your workload is reduced and you enjoy privileges of working indoors as opposed to working hard in the field? If I applied for a job with a specific company, the fact that I’m in a relationship with a Caucasian man will not get me the job. If I am extended recognition of any sort, it would have to be based on the name of the family.

Granted, there will always be a few bad apples who will try to contaminate the good ones by having ulterior motives, but we shouldn’t generalize. Any relationship that is founded on lies will not thrive!

Interracial Couples examined

I found this controversial article online and thought I’d share it. I don’t agree with it as it doesn’t make sense to stereotype interracial relationships simply because a few men have a hidden motive behind their reason for dating outside their race. But this article makes for a great debate.

It might sound like a question coming out of the color blue, but after watching a video on “Why black men like white women,” that is quickly going viral, the question must be asked. Do all interracial couples have deadly narcissistic traits?

Narcissism as described on mentalhealth.com, is a “Personality disorder characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, need for admiration, extreme self-involvement, and lack of empathy for others. Individuals with this disorder are usually arrogantly self-assured and confident. They expect to be noticed as superior…”

Why Black Guys like White Girls In the video above, a black man and his white girlfriend attempt to explain the real reason why black men choose white women over black women. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a preference in a partner, what is puzzling is the amount of hate being thrown at black women, who obviously has no part in their relationship.

Listed below are the seven deadly sins of narcissism. After reading them and watching the video, you decide: Are their “attitudes” narcissistic? Then answer the question: Do all interaccial couples feel this way?

Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism:

  1. Shamelessness: Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.
  2. Magical thinking: Narcissists see themselves as perfect, using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.
  3. Arrogance: A narcissist who is feeling deflated may re-inflate by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.
  4. Envy: A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person’s ability by using contempt to minimize the other person.
  5. Entitlement: Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Failure to comply is considered an attack on their superiority, and the perpetrator is considered an “awkward” or “difficult” person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.
  6. Exploitation: Can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.
  7. Bad boundaries: Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and are expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist there is no boundary between self and other.
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6 thoughts on “Do all interracial couples have deadly narcissistic traits?

  1. I agree with you 100%. You’ll also notice that Black men who make these “why Black men prefer White women” videos are the very ones who go nuts when a Black woman says she is dating, married to, or simply attracted to White men. The attitude seems to be, “How dare she? I just told everyone that Black women aren’t as good as a White woman and here this Black woman is dating a White man, my sworn enemy!” They LOVE to claim that Black women who are in relationships with non-Black men “hate Black men” and are conspiring with the White man” (even when the significant other is not even White) to destroy Black men. SMH. These guys are sooooo pathetic. But, of course, all narcissists are.

    Also, the idea that mixed / light-skinned Blacks did not have to work the fields is largely a myth. The main reason abolitionists opposed slavery was because they witnessed people who looked as White as themselves working the fields. Were it not for these sightings, the Civil War and our collective freedom may never have happened.
    Great post!

  2. I’ve never understood the concept of ‘upgrading’ either simply because the person is white. Maybe I’m the upgrade for him. LOL. Too many inferiority complexes going on in the black community for me. I am inferior to no one. Good article.

  3. You’re right about inferiority complexes motivating this “upgrade” non-sense. You would have to see yourself and your entire ethnic group as inferior to believe that dating anyone who is not of your ethnicity (no matter how trashy) is “upgrading”. SMH.

    I think the “upgrading” thing was invented by Black males on YouTube. I only recently heard of “upgrading”. Some Black guy has a video called “I’m proud of Kevin Hart for upgrading his women to light-skinned”. I assume he was referring to going from a dark skinned BW to a light skinned BW. Sadly, males who think this way are incapable of loving ANY woman regardless of complexion, because, in their tiny little minds, women are not Human beings like them.

    For whatever reason, the biggest fools in America have YouTube accounts. And they, apparently, have no problem with using YT to discredit themselves. LOL.

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